Let’s start by saying that the only truly safe sex to be having right now is solo sex. But, if you’ve decided that sex with other people is something you simply can’t live without….then say hello to mutual masturbation.

One method of mutual masturbation is the act of pleasuring yourself in front of a partner. Whilst some people consider mutual stimulation (hand jobs, fingering etc) as mutual masturbation, what we’re talking about here involves no contact with the other person.

With COVID-19 spreading via respiratory drops, any sex aside from solo sex definitely carries risk due to the close proximity of another person.  But, masturbating with a partner – as long as you keep your distance – is the next best thing.

The benefits of masturbating with a partner

• As well as reducing your risk of getting COVID-19, masturbating with a partner is risk-free when it comes to STIs and unwanted pregnancies. Now that’s what we call a win-win
• You take away the pressure. No more worrying about the other person, but instead, you get to focus on your own pleasure
• You’ll also learn a lot about what your partner likes simply by watching and learning. What better way to get prepared for when sex is back on the table?

How to enjoy masturbating with a partner safely

• Make sure you’re both feeling well, and symptom-free
• Talk about your expectations upfront and set the rules that work for you
• Keep your distance – a minimum of 1.5 metres at all times
• If you’re sharing sex toys make sure that you keep them clean by following these rules
• Consider wearing masks to minimise the risk of COVID-19 even further, or even take the fun online

Do you have any COVID-19 related sexual health questions? Ask Nurse Nettie – it’s free and confidential. Or, why not get involved in the conversation over on the Play Safe forum?

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